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- In this indispensable, thoughtful, and comprehensive guide, Dr. Laura Brown distills almost four decades of experience working with trauma survivors into a compendium filled with wisdom, caring, and resources for dealing with elders who were once abusive. Her writing style comes from the heart and includes survivor stories, scientific studies, and step-by-step guidelines for sorting out one’s personal situation. It is a treasure trove that will help survivors reclaim their power, hope, and selfhood.
- Your Turn to Care serves as an unparalleled survivors’ manual for adults now faced with the prospect of dealing with those who abused and maltreated them. Dr. Laura Brown distills three decades of experience as a master clinician to offer much needed compassionate and wise guidance to people who have been harmed by parents or other family members. The compelling stories of clients confronting major life decisions are interlaced with an explanation of their internal dynamics and beautifully delineated principles that readers can use to make their own hard choices. This unique volume is a must-read for all those facing these kinds of challenges and for all therapists working with traumatized clients. Readers will gain a greater understanding of why abuse occurs and its long-lasting effects, as well as sage advice about how to nurture their own well-being, even under the most difficult of circumstances.
- Count on Dr. Laura Brown to be ahead of the curve on all issues related to adult survivors of childhood abuse and neglect. This time, she has identified a gap in the literature relating to survivors who are faced with the care and other end-of-life issues of elders who were abusive to them. In response, she has written a timely book, Your turn for care: Surviving the aging and death of the adults who harmed you in which she systematically lays out many of the issues that can arise and the mixed feelings that are likely in such a confounded circumstance. She advises survivors to be pragmatic in what they can offer, listen to their own inner wisdom, and take care of themselves first. A wise and comforting book in what is often a time of turmoil.
- Laura Brown has blazed trails in psychology, taking on topics the rest of us have overlooked or shied away from and bringing new light to areas we thought we knew well. Her new book, which I’ve just read with admiration and appreciation, is no exception. She has created a wonderful source of support and guidance, a down-to-earth resource for thinking through and feeling through the challenges confronting those whose harmful elders are approaching the end of life. For many, this book will be more than a help; it will be a life-preserver.
- Growing up in the shadow of abuse and neglect can affect adult survivors across the lifespan. Often in their midlife the infirmity, dying, and death of an abusive parent brings painful memories and struggles roaring back to the present for these individuals. Therapists who work with adult survivors are all too familiar with the guilt, anger, pain, and confusion of this time for clients. For the first time, Laura Brown addresses the navigation of these perilous waters in her compassionate and wise book, Your Turn For Care. Therapists and their clients alike will find this gem of a book be an invaluable resource in making tough decisions about whether or how to care for aging, ill, or dying parents in ways that support respectful self-care and balance. I highly recommend every therapist who works with adult survivors read this book and encourage their clients to read it.
- In her formidable career as a clinician treating survivors of trauma, Dr. Laura Brown has stepped up to provide a guide for abuse survivors who find themselves taking care of their elderly abusers or coping with the complex grief experienced when they die…This book is a major contribution to the field in that it confronts a sensitive and important subject not previously addressed in the literature, academic or popular…This book can be a critically important resource for any clinician who treats a patients facing this situation…This book is highly recommended for survivors who have become caregivers, as well as for their therapists.
Brown, L.S. (2012). Your turn for care: Surviving the aging and death of the adults who harmed you.
- Related Resources – This page includes links to all of the books and organizations I recommend in the Resources appendix of Your Turn for Care.
- Attributes of a Powerful Person – is a handout that I’ve included in several of my books in which I describe the many ways in which people are powerful.
- Laura talks about Your Turn for Care on The Mary Waldon Show – A frank conversation about many of the concepts in Your Turn for Care with internet radio host Mary Waldon.
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